Do You Live Life With Regrets?
Nothing makes you more aware of fleeting time than your birthday. I believe each of us has a timeline embedded in our minds as to how long we will live.
Many of us feel like we have crossed a milestone when we live beyond the number of years that our parents lived.
We are constantly reminded how short life is; that we need to live it to the fullest and not have regrets. We need to make sure we forgive those who hurt us, no matter how difficult that might be.
Science has proven that bitterness takes its toll on our psyche and can cause health issues resulting in a shorter life.
Yet, as we approach our golden years, many are fearful about how fast that time is approaching and concerned about their health or welfare.
Where Did The Time Go?
But if 60 is the new 40 then 70 must be the new 50. When I passed one of those milestones, I could barely grasp how time had marched on so quickly. We may say "Where did the time go?" or "It seems like only yesterday..."
When we think about it and remember all the accomplishments, failures, achievements, and heartbreaks, it shocks us back to reality. When our children or friends have a birthday, we realize we, too, are aging even if we do not feel it.
Recently, someone introduced me at a social gathering that brought tears to my eyes. He said, “I have known this gal for almost three decades and I will never forget her laugh. I remember the first time I heard it. She has maintained that laugh no matter what life threw at her. I wish I had that energy and that approach to life. Remember to laugh."
I have many regrets, but I refuse to dwell on them. To do that, I would certainly be depressed. Many people negatively talk about the past; an unhappy marriage, wayward kids, their abusive childhood, or any number of instances in their lives they wish they could change.
Life is what we make of it no matter how tough it may have been. Attitude during and after extreme trauma will make or break us. Period!
Life Without Regrets
My memoir, Battered Hope, has more than twelve traumatic events that would devastate most people. Most of those events were a result of people hurting or abusing me or my family.
Some were the results of a bad decision, but many were not. Cancer. Loss of a child, more than once. Corrupt business partners stole our thriving business. Being gang raped and left for dead. An abusive first marriage. My husband serving a prison sentence when wrongfully accused!
Each time I chose to trust God and not question Him. God orders our steps, and He will give us what we need when we go through terrible circumstances.
We can choose to lose our faith or thank and praise Him that He will never leave us, and He is in control.
And that has always been my secret. Keep laughing. Try to entertain everyone you encounter -- even if it is for a moment in the grocery store line-up. There are many sad people in the world, and they need to have someone make them smile.Life is short and we do not get a restart button.
Live Your Life Without Regrets
I think of my precious son every single day. He and his family walked out of our lives ten years ago with no explanation. We cry. We pray. We believe that someday he will realize how much we love him and return home.
Until then we have hope in knowing that God’s timing is always perfect – without exception.
Choose to live life without regrets – you cannot change the past, but you can mold the future.